There are a lot more signs of a spiritual attack on your marriage, but here are four that I’ve either experienced or have seen other couples go through.
When Tempers Flare
Every marriage is a miracle relationship of sorts because men and women have vast differences. So when tempers begin to flare, even over the tiniest of things, then the couple might be under spiritual attack. Even “though we walk in the flesh, we are not waging war according to the flesh” (2 Corinthians 10:3) because our enemy is invisible to the human eye (Ephesians 6:12). Remember to be patient with one another because God is with us.
Weak Prayer Life
When the enemy can get us off our knees, he is helping us to cut off our only source of help and hope. When couples refuse to pray individually and together, the devil can get a foothold in their marriage. The times when prayer seems the most difficult are the very times we need prayer the most. When a couple is under spiritual attack, the enemy can make us feel too busy to pray, too hopeless to pray, and too pointless to pray, so a weakening of a couple’s prayer life could be a sign of their being under spiritual attack.
When couples begin to care only for themselves, they begin to serve their mate less and less until over time they are only interested in doing for themselves. But marriage is about serving one another and not drawing a line in the sand and saying, “50% of your duties are there; 50% of mine are over here.” That’s not the way marriage works. It’s not what you can get out of a marriage but what you put into one. So when one of the mates begins to focus only on themselves, the enemy might be trying to make sure they “take care of number one” first rather than caring for their mate above their own self-interests.
When we start to become irritated about the little things our marriage partner is doing, then we are not remembering how much we’ve been forgiven. When we start to keep count, then we are allowing the devil a foothold in our marriage because we can feel shortchanged, and then resentment starts to build. Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition. It is an unlimited serving of one another and not keeping track of who did or didn’t do what. The enemy would love nothing more than to have us keep score and then use it against our partners for not holding up their end of the marriage.
Most Christians realize they have bull’s eyes on their backs and that the enemy and his demons will try to bring us down. Even though he can’t, he still can sling spiritual fiery darts at us. This is because “we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places” (Ephesians 6:12). A strong marriage needs a threefold cord, with God being the third cord that holds it all together. Couples, we’re in a war, a spiritual war, and the enemy wants to bring us down. So, couples, we need to pray together, serve together, and study the Word together to be able to stay together.