Fighting Over Non-Essentials
It really hurts to see Christians fighting over things that are not essential to our salvation. One man said that the Bible teaches this and another said, it teaches that, but as it turned out, they were both wrong. Sadly, neither would admit they were wrong and neither apologized to the other. If you are debating over things where the Bible is not clear, they you (and I) have some maturing to go through.
Judging by Sight
I used to be really bad as this. I would look at someone and make an immediate assessment of them. Really, I was judging them by sight and that always turns out badly. God told Samuel who was passing his sons by to see who would be the next king of Israel, told him “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart” (1st Sam 16:7). Mature Christians no longer judge people by sight. They have learned better.
Acceptance of Others
Our church is a grace-filled church. We have former convicts, people who are disabled, people of different skin color and nationalities, the homeless, and so on. We have learned (the hard way) to be accepting of others, including their faults. If we don’t accept others, then we don’t realize that God has accepted us in Christ. We shouldn’t trip over what’s behind people. What’s behind us stays behind us. Mature Christians have learned to accept others, regardless of whom they are or where they come from.
Breaking God’s Laws
Not one of us will ever be sinless in this life. If we say we have no sin, we’re calling God a liar (1st John 1:8, 10). The Apostle John says if we sin, we must confess it, and all of us fall far short of God’s glory (Rom 3:23), but we don’t stay there. We strive to be sinning less and mature Christians should sin less, but as we grow in the faith, we tend to break God’s laws less frequently too. We are growing in holiness, yes perhaps slowly, but sanctification takes a lifetime and a mature Christian realizes that.
Resisting God’s Will
New Christians are still learning God’s will, and even though His will is revealed in the Bible, we still struggle to obey it, but more mature Christians have discovered that the will of God is knowable, so they read the Bible and find out what it is. Then, they strive to find God’s will for their lives and obey it. Mature Christians are less likely to resist God’s will because they’ve read enough of the Bible to know it, but they also make a choice to follow it.
Generally speaking, mature Christians don’t fight with one another over the Bible; they don’t judge people or situations by sight; they accept others for who they are; they don’t customarily break God’s laws, and they stop resisting God’s will because they learn it in the Word of God.