Here are five signs you may be dating the wrong person.
It’s All About Them
If you’re dating someone who’s only interested in going where they want to go and doing what they want to do without asking your opinion, you might be dating the wrong person. A great sign is when the person you’re dating asks you what you want to do, even if it’s not their thing. But you may be dating the wrong person if that person makes themselves the center of the universe and only does what they want to do.
No Passion for the Things of God
If you’re dating someone and notice there is never any conversation about God or Jesus or they’re not interested in church, reading and studying the Bible, or prayer, that should bring up some red flags. Whoever says they have a hunger for God will have a hunger for His Word and they’ll desire to talk with Him in prayer. If all these things are absent, you might be dating the wrong person.
Never Shares His or Her Faith
Have you ever been with other Christians who have publicly shared their faith? Let me tell you, it’s not an easy thing to do. But if you’re dating someone who is embarrassed to pray in public before a meal or never even speaks the name of Jesus for fear of being overheard, there may be concerns about the person you’re dating. For most Christians they cannot help but speak about Jesus and God’s amazing grace.
Doesn’t Like Children or Pets
Children have a very good sense about people. It seems they can see through hypocrisy easier than adults can. Maybe that’s because their minds haven’t been infiltrated with years of sin yet. Some would say that about pets. I have sometimes noticed that people who are generally kind and loving have a better response from children and pets. One immediate concern about anyone you date is if they don’t like to be around children or they don’t like to be around pets. Whoever is harsh to children and/or animals is a person I’d think twice about before dating. If you notice they lose their temper easily when they’re around children or pets, I would be careful about dating such a person.
I know it’s legal to drink alcohol; but if you notice an ongoing pattern of drinking during the day (especially before lunch or supper), you might have someone who’s abusing alcohol. There are others who might be taking prescription drugs, but these also can be abused. Anyone who’s taking legal or illegal substances for the express purpose of impairing one’s judgment or being in an altered state of mind is a person you shouldn’t date. Anyone you’re dating with substance abuse problems may fool you into thinking, “Once we’re married, I’ll stop this.” Don’t believe it. You’re taking a gigantic risk.
If you’re considering dating someone or dating someone now, please think about these signs, which should tell you that you might be dating the wrong person, especially if it’s someone who’s obsessed with themselves, someone who has no hunger or thirst for the things of God, someone who is silent about their faith, someone who doesn’t like children or pets, and someone who’s abusing drugs or alcohol.